How to Seduce a Venus Sign

One of the frequent inquires I get is about love and relationships. Let's dive into Venus and see how to seduce each sign. You'll need to know cupid's target, if you have someone's birth date, you can pull the chart for the day and as long as Venus wasn't changing signs, you'll be able to proceed with your seduction. Of course, having their exact birth time and location gives you a picture of their soul (can you tell I'm a Scorpio Venus).

Venus is the planet in astrology associated with beauty, art and values. It's our wants, not our needs. For Venus, it's not about love, it's about Seduction. Venus is the ruler of Taurus and Libra. If we look at the traditional birth chart wheel, Taurus is the 2nd house (money, possession - the things you physically have & values) and Libra is the 7th house (contractual relationships, open enemies). Most will call the 7th the house of marriage, but I read it as the contractual documents you sign, whether in business or marriage. There's nothing romantic about the Libra image of a scale, the best we can do is hope for the right fit, a balance of alignment. Intimacy and merging (of assets) is in the 8th house - that's the juiciness in relationships.

Let's break down how to seduce each Venus.

On your marks, Get set, VENUS: Aries

You will know if this Venus likes you. Aries is cardinal fire -- think of them as the fire starter. It may start out really hot and really fast, but you'll need to help pace this Venus before the match is blown out. They may be quick to confess their love, but they really haven't had the time to process if it's just the endorphin rush or if they truly feel you are in this marathon of life with them. Keep it light and fun to start. Keep them interested by mixing things up with interesting dates. If it gets too monotonous too fast, your Aries Venus may be signing up for a new race without you.

All my senses need your attention: Taurus

And above all, have common sense. Do not overstimulate your Taurus lover. Focus on one sense at a time. Cook a meal that they can savor in their mouths. Slide your foot between theirs under the table. Make them the center of your attention as they will make you theirs. Taurus Venus is passionate and protective. If they are your target, never have a wandering eye, they are not interested in games. Messy people do not apply for a Taurus Venus' love.

Talk dirty to me: Gemini

Pretty sure the premise of the Bachelor was created from the mind of the Gemini Venus. You may not be the only one in the DM's during the first episode (or season). They thrive on the flirty exchanges. You need to be on your word game, charming and witty. You're gonna need to put in the work on this Venus. The wooing stage is not for the weak. Step one is getting their attention. Make them feel like they're missing out, without you. This Venus can be easily distracted, you need to keep it fun, hot and interesting. You might need extra B12 shots to keep up with them! If you're the jealous type...this is not your match.

Venus called "Security!": Cancer

Water sign Venus' aren't easy. Cancer is ruled by the moon, so a Cancer Venus wants real emotional connection and right away. They need to feel safe and secure. If you're just dipping your toe into the dating pond, back away from this one if you aren't all in, because they already are. Invite your Cancer Venus over and give them a toothbrush to leave at your place or even a drawer for themselves. If you find them starting to play games with you, it's a defense mechanism because they don't feel secure in the relationship.

Center of Attention Venus: Leo

Leo traditionally is associated with the 5th house in the birth chart. Think High School crush, lots of flirting, maybe passing a cute note, do you like me, check yes or no. You want to seduce a Leo Venus, well, they are now your entire world. You're gonna need to be that friend that drops their friends for their new love interest. Up your style, but don't you dare outshine them. Couple image is important so start planning fun, adventurous Instagram pic worthy dates. You're now on the rollercoaster of love and just like in high school, your date may end with a make out session in the back seat.

Obsessive, this Venus: Virgo

I do not find this Venus to be virginal at all. So drop that stereotype. They know what they like and require you to treat them with customized care and attention. Best to find out fast what they like - ask good questions - Virgo is ruled by Mercury. Reciprocity is key with them. Now, they are not the fastest to become emotionally attached, but they can err on the obsessive side when they've set their sights on you. Just be careful, you want to be their lover, not their latest project.

They love me, they love me not: Libra

Oh sweet air sign Libra. Created from the claws of Scorpio that are depicted by the scales. They are the water of the air signs. You're probably thinking, shouldn't the Libra Venus seduce me as the lover of the zodiac. No, they like to be chased, to be fawned over, stroke their ego, tell them, "You're like really pretty Libra Venus." They can be very charming themselves, but under that charm, they are in a constant battle with rationalizing what's in their head and what they feel in their heart. This is why making a decision is hard for them. The Libra Venus' can easily lose themselves in relationships - that takes the need to make a decision out of the equation, they can deflect to you.

Venus in the waiting room: Scorpio

Wanna win over a Scorpio Venus, just give them your soul (or birth chart info). They want it all and they want it now. Sadly, a Scorpio Venus needs to learn patience. They may skip steps in the relationship and rush something before it's ready for FOMO. Scorpio Venus' do not like to be left on read or in the void. They need clarity from their partners. You wanna hook a Scorpio, be clear with your intentions in your relationship with them and help them pace the relationship while reassuring them, you are into them. PS - there is an abundance of passion in this Venus and they want to give it to you - right now! But careful they don't drown you in their waterfall of obsession.

Big Love Venus: Sagittarius

Love is an adventure with on the go Sagittarius Venus. They're flirty, fun and always playful. They have loads of energy, so you need to have action packed dates planned. Access to a PJ (Private Jet), whisk them away for a hike and lunch in the Grand Canyon. You get the idea - you can't go wrong with sporty and outdoorsy. Now they may fall fast for you and can become easily bored, so don't show all your cards at once. Let them keep discovering new sides of you. Surprise them. Good golly, I hope you have the energy to keep up.

Yes Venus, may I have another: Capricorn

I mean, Capricorn is ruled by Saturn, the Sky Daddy of the zodiac. Discuss the rules of conduct before entering into contract. Partnership for them may feel a bit more business like - they don't have time for games and aren't over the top romantics. You either work well together or you don't. Their nature is not to play hard to get, they're just more grounded and rational. Be straight forward with them and show yourself as an asset to your partnership.

Have you realized yet...the Earth signs are definitely the kink-sters of the zodiac.

My Venus is otherworldly: Aquarius

Don't be boring! Keep things playful and fun. Aquarius Venus may not have a typical relationship type or style. Be open to experimenting - of all the Venus signs, they are more likely to engage in open relationships. They may keep you on your toes with their quirkiness. Give them space when they need it. Be flexible, if things get too routine, they very likely will change their mind (about you). If you crave consistency, this may not be the best Venus for you. If you are full of surprises and open-minded, jump into outer space with them!

I have high expectations Venus: Pisces

Who's living in a fairytale? Venus in Pisces is. They fall in love with the process of falling in love. You need to bring the charm and the romance. No half-assing it with this Venus. They have big expectations. But have they really fallen for you? They need help with vetting the relationship. Maybe add in a few check points in your fairytale plot - make sure they really are into you and not your shiny armor. They have a high capacity for love and romance - along with codependency. It's on you to help establish boundaries.

Be kind to yourself and others.

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